Some senior adults say they’re too set in their ways for New Year’s resolutions. However, resolutions can be about more than losing weight or breaking a bad habit. No matter what your age or place in life, you can use relational resolutions to improve your relationships in the New Year. Here are some suggestions for relational resolutions that are perfect for seniors or anyone.
1. Make a list of people instead of resolutions
Instead of listing things you want to change, make a list of people. These can include people you want to spend time with or write to. They can be friends or family, clergy or counselors. Then make an action plan to start investing more in those relationships.
2. Resolve to be a better friend
Proverbs 18:24 says that “A man who has friends must himself be friendly.” Let’s face it, we could all be better at being a friend. Think about what you like friends to do for you, and resolve to do those things for your friends and family.
3. Resolve to be a peacemaker
Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the sons of God.” (Matt 5:9) Are their relationships in your life that have become strained? Being right, being vindicated, or being treated well is not worth losing a friendship. If someone has wronged you, forgive and reach out. If you’ve wronged someone, remember, humble pie may taste bitter but it goes down sweet.
4. Resolve to involve a counselor
A therapist, family counselor, or member of the clergy can be a great help in improving relationships. Often, even when families feel everything is ok, group counseling can open up new lines of communication. Individual counseling can also be very impactful. A counselor can often give you significant help just from hearing you talk about your relationships.
5. Schedule your relationships
Many of us love surprise visits, but the truth is, they sometimes just don’t happen. Schedule time with the people that are important to you. Put them on your calendar and call, write, or visit in person with them. As with every important calendar item, schedule a backup time as well, just in case the first time doesn’t work out.
Don’t worry about results
Jesus said, “do good…expecting nothing in return.” (Luke 6:35) This certainly applies to relationships. People don’t always respond the way we’d like them to, so keep that in mind. Remember that we were made in God’s image and He is a Love-Giver. That means that we were made to give love even when it’s not returned, just like Jesus did.
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